Get That ‘Fat Talk’ Outta Here!
When we obsess about our weight, we have a tendency to put our body image next to the dirty laundry. If we continually put ourselves down, or criticize our appearance, we might never step out of the darkness. It’s time to get that ‘fat talk’ outta here! If we continually degrade our looks, we might end up having to figure out how to deal with an eating disorder too.
And if you have a best friend, or a group of friends, that allow you to continually ‘fat talk’ yourself, these are not the kind of friends you need at this time. You might need to find a different kind of support during this time of your life. This kind of talk should not be allowed into our conversations. It premeditates our ability to come out of the darkness and into the light where we can begin to heal.
It is best that we continually check our attitude toward ourselves with positivity!
Eating Disorders and Closet Eating?
Our society has been socially crippled today by thousands of television advertisements and of how we need to be “thin”. Even in this day of the acceptable “new fat”, becoming acceptable in the “fat world” is not a socially acceptable way of life for us as type 2 diabetics.
Even if we find ourselves as part of the “new fat” crowd, and we look at our bodies in that full length mirror; we don’t find this as a particularly satisfying experience either. At least for me it is not.
I hate my body with fat on it, and especially now that I am getting older, this is doubly crippling for me. This experience, even though not satisfying is much too realistic for many people! By continually harping about our fat, we are adding a double negative to life, which is difficult to overcome.
For those of us who might have an emotional eating problem, we may need a health coach, or better yet, some healthy friends, and fast. With this crippling disorder of “closet eating” while throwing it in on top of type 2 diabetes, we could find ourselves dead rather quickly if we don’t get that ‘fat talk’ outta here! That’s how negative ‘fat talk’ can be for our mental health.
Type 2 Diabetics already face big problems
Obsession or Reality?
How is it that we have become so obsessed with our weight and how our bodies look? For those of us who are type 2 diabetic, this I can understand because we don’t have much of a choice. If we diabetics don’t become obsessed, we may end up sick and this could be in one or more ways at the same time.
With so many ugly things that can happen to a type 2 diabetic as a result of not becoming obsessed with health; diseases such as heart disease, kidney failure, liver disease, heart failure, Alzheimer’s disease, neuropathy, and so many other awful things like the loss of a limb or two, gangrene, a disease with rotting feet or toes, even whole limbs such as a leg. These things will become our reality if we don’t treat our health as an obsession.
But because society is bombarding us with messages that the only way we can be healthy and happy, happy and have it all, is to be thin. Is this the only way that people can live and remain happy? It made me wonder the other day about how people get together and stay together as a couple?
Is it a reality to truly have it all as long as a person is thin? Does a person get true happiness and love of life, the feeling of holding a hand, or feelings of love, a simple kiss, or having someone rub their aching shoulders?
This is what we see in the television commercials. Advertising shows us that we can have it all as long as we are thin. The messages we get from society, television, billboards, that “thin is in”; these messages are everywhere.
Truth About ‘FAT Talk’
An obsession with thin can be a good thing but only if it encourages “healthy eating” habits and exercise. ‘Fat talk’ however, can lead to negative, even dangerous behaviors; which erodes self-esteem.
Don’t you know someone that does this? Are you guilty of it? Statistics show that there are people who ‘fat talk’ without even realizing it. How bad can it really be to make a comment about how fat we look in this dress, or a pair of jeans? Does it make us feel guilty when eating certain foods?
If we put ourselves down for how we look, compare our body to someone else, criticize something we ate or even are eating, then fat talk is not only harmful to perception of body image, but harmful also to self-esteem. Anyone, everyone is susceptible to ‘fat talk’. It doesn’t involve just people who are overweight.
However, the ‘fat talk’ involving type 2 diabetes can be more detrimental if you really think about it. Since those of us with type 2 diabetes can become seriously ill from eating incorrectly, not getting enough rest, or getting no exercise. Consider for a moment that person who has already been reduced to a mere portion of what they once were.
But if we continually ‘fat talk’ about ourselves, we are not only contemplating already negative self-worth and dangerous behaviors, and eroding our self-esteem even more than it already has been affected, but upon looking in that mirror, we may see something that is not even who we are but someone already reduced to a mere willow of who we had hoped.
However, to continually tear away at that small piece of self, we soon will find a bit of an outer shell of a person who was once there. To try to rebuild someone who has no self-esteem at all could take years many of those who are already affected with low self-esteem don’t have those years left.
You see, in some, this ‘fat talk’ can mask deeper feelings such as despair and rage. By focusing on the superficial, these people can avoid discussing these other emotions.
But even if, everyone is doing it, experts have warned that ‘fat talk’ is dangerous. Negative thoughts that we carry around about our bodies can lead to poor body image; even a decreased self-esteem.
This can also affect actions and given facts that our thoughts can have a profound connection to our behaviors and emotions, negative feelings about weight can set up a cycle of self-loathing which can cause us to be less likely to exercise, eat right, and get plenty of rest.
With some people this might cause us to not care for ourselves at all and lead to possible eating disorders.
Sheela Raja, PhD, assistant professor and clinical psych in the Colleges of Medicine and Dentistry at the U of Illinois in Chicago, says “it’s an epidemic. People do it to get reassurance from friends, and they may do it because it has become somewhat of the norm in our culture. When is the last time you heard a woman say, ‘Wow, I think I look pretty good today’ – we don’t reward that kind of contentment and satisfaction. Instead, we tend to put it down as being smug.”
Ways To Stop The ‘Fat Talk’
- We can eliminate ‘fat talk’ by ridding it from our lives and rebuilding our self-esteem by: bringing our habits out in front and discussing it with friends; making sure they understand just how bad, negative, and harmful ‘fat talk’ can be; vow to stop.
- Sling praise, go heavy on compliments, start a new fad by talking heavy on how good she looks, the color of her eyes, her new lipstick is great, etc.
- Instead of “godifying” celebs, take a deep down look at what they are really like and watch their acting up close. Remember their photos are always retouched at printing.
- Then think more heavily on people that you really admire and why, ie; wisdom, compassion, brains, or the real people reasons that you admire about them.
- Instead of looking in the mirror and commenting about how fat you might look, comment on qualities you see. Find something that you like and over time you will become more positive.
- Try being a “better role model”. When you engage in ‘fat talk’ you are also sending terrible messages to other girls/younger women. What if their self-worth revolves around how skinny they are?
Book to read: It’s Not About The Food: A Woman’s Guide To Making Peace With Food and Our Bodies by Esther Kane, MSW.
The final thought: ‘Fat Talk’ helps nobody and only hurts our own self-esteem. Remember “if you can’t find something nice to say, then don’t say anything at all”; even if it’s about you!
While ‘fat talk’ might have nothing to do with you, I think that the more we reflect on exactly what ‘fat talk’ is, the more we will find as a type 2 diabetic, that ‘fat talk’ permeates our lives more than we would like to think.
Thanks for coming by today to read our post. Take care of yourself and “get that fat talk outta here”!